Melinda, I know it's a tough situation for you, as I have been a bedwetter for most of my life also and would be terrified of a potential mate finding out. Certainly having him "discover" it after it happened would not be the best way for it to happen... so I'd suggest that you consider working up the nerve to be open about this problem with him. I know it won't be easy at first, but sharing things like this is one of the natural parts of getting to know each other better at this stage (assuming that you are at that sort of stage now, or close to it!), and you also might want to ask yourself if you could really see yourself having a long term relationship with him if he can't accept that you have this problem? I hope you don't have to worry about that, and most likely you won't -- most likely he cares about you enough that he will be very understanding and supportive, especially if you make clear to him how difficult a struggle this is for you and how hard you have tried to stop it. Still, all the more reason to try to discuss it with him before he finds out the hard way! It won't be easy but you can do it! I hope this is helpful; feel free to e-mail me smallblad77@hotmail.com if you want to talk more about this. It isn't easy but we're all in this together! --Adam