Thomas obviously has NO IDEA what it is like to have medical problems like these. Like i didnt think of trying medication. I may be a wetter but im not stupid. I just so happen to be alergic to those types of medications. I couldnt breath while on them. My problems stem from damaged nerves in my lower back( a condition called Caudia Equina Syndrom) Read up on it THOMAS im sure you will feel differently once you have. I am getting through life with a disability that makes a man feel like less than a man and I have a wife and 2 wonderful kids that stand by me. all i know is that it would be nice to talk with people who have a full understanding of the problem GET A LIFE THOMAS Shawn