Dear T, As you can see I'm pretty old in compare to you but I wanted to encourage you, for I've been married to my hubby for almost 25 years now and haven't ever regret that. My hubby was incontinent even before we met but it never has been that much of a problem for us to even consider stop seeing one and other , and as I said we're married for almost 25 years now! Did have our difficulties due to this but I figure if you love one enough that will beat the difficulties,Beside that we do believe in God and feel His comfort in this matter as well! Dera frien, please don't give up on yourself for time will come that you will be happely married as well! In His Love Caroline!!!