Boernie,when I was 13 I was raped.I too lose control sometimes and wet the bed during intense nightmares.It's a stress thing with me.The more stress I'm under,the more frequent the nightmares and the more nights I wet the bed.I'm learning how to control the stress before I see a urologist and have him tell me it's all in my head and due to the trauma of being raped.So far it's working out pretty good.I don't wet the bed as much and if I do,I don't wet it as many times a night.Good luck Boernie and I hope you find the help you deserve.