Hi,--i too had that problem only once about a year ago. Now when i go to drug stores i really don't care what other people think. Most are real helpful and sempitetic to our needs. I will just ask them where the adult diapers are. Sometimes they look down at the your crotch and some just smile. normally i have on my plastic pants over my dispable diapers. by the way i wear Attends too in extra large size. hope this helps. if you want to email please reply to this message withyour email add. Then i will contact you.---Jimbo