You say you and your wife have a good relationship but you have to realize that wetting as an adult MAY seem VERY scary to her thus she may not be sure how or when to approach you about them. I really feel that she is just waiting for th "perfect" time to tell. If YOU bring it up ing a loving, non threatning way she may be grateful that you love her enough to accept her no matter what strange things may they be. I really don`t think she will care you found her diapers. Remember to assure her that you will love her no matter what