You may have bought a size too big. I have tried the Depend undergarments as well as the Tena ones, and I've found that they fit a lot better if I buy a size smaller than what I would for normal adult diapers. For example, I have a 35" waist, so if I were buying regular adult diapers, I would take a medium and they would fit me perfectly. But for the undergarments, I find that the size small fits me better. I can even wear the extra-large goodnites, although they then offer somewhat less protection, so it depends on your needs.