dear Jenny, first of all , do see a doctor, no matter what.Incontinence can occur at any age, I was heavyly incontinent until I was 11, I got teased and bullied very much because of my diaper butt, then the doctor proscribed `minirin` . I still have little accidents once in a while, I wear a pair of close fitting plastic pants over a pad ,it protects and nobody can see, nothing shows off, thanks to Minirin .Its available in the USA as well. I am from Holland , please do excuse my english. Love, Veronica