Dear Jane, First of all: do see a doctor; there might be help for you. In the meantime , there is nothing wrong with wearing rubber or plastic pantiesyou can buy them in all sizes and colours. I wear them as well, even under short dresses and skirts and I don't want to miss them anymore,any thing it is better than the total embarresment you discribe.Besides, I think ,wearing plastic- or rubber-panties is good social behaviour, I couldn't appreciate someone wetting my furniture. I don't mean to insult you, I only want to help. Love, Veronica