Reply from adam, Age 26 - 4/12/04 - IP#:   adultbb-c1819

Danielle, I don't have too much time because I need to head out to work this morning, but I just wanted to let you know you're not alone; I went through 4 years of college and 4 different roommates trying to keep my occasional bedwetting problem a secret. What I did was keep 3 extra sets of sheets in the room, and if I wet the bed I would change the sheets as soon as my roommate left the room (or went in the shower) and wipe off the bed and stuff as I did that. Then I would put the wet sheets in an opaque black laundry bag (so no one could see what was inside) and spray a little disinfectant on them so that people couldn't smell them either. Then I would just wash them the next convenient opportunity when the laundry room was empty, not too difficult for me because I stayed up to crazy late hours of the night. :) There were other things I had to do too sometimes that I don't have time to list right now, but you can feel free to e-mail me and I'll give you more details. I know very well how hard this is to deal with in silence. I hope you don't feel too badly about not being able to spend the night with boyfriends and such -- you may not be missing as much there as it seems anyway. Do you have a good relationship with your roommate? If you are pretty good friends (and I mean real friends, as opposed to just hanging out on the same social scene) then you might think about taking the step of telling at least her about it to make hiding the problem a lot less stressful for you. That way you at least won't have to sneak around your own room to hide it, and you'll never have the added stress of possibly being "found out", which may happen eventually anyway. I was finally able in grad school to talk to one of my roommates about my situation, and he was absolutely great about it -- like I said, if she is a real friend she will understand. Well, I need to run for now. If you have any questions or want to talk more, feel free to e-mail me at --Adam