Yes it is difficult to cope with, I have been to urologists for the last twenty years and tried different medications, they either dry me up for days on end or I develope and immunity, or they do not work at all. At first my wife was somewhat disgusted about the diapers but after my efforts of medical evaluations and side effects of the medications we decided mutually that the diapers were not all that bad. they are actually less expensive than meds. Have your husband go for all the uorodynamics testing. He is not alone and does need your support. Diapers are tough to get accustomed to but it beats wet clothing and wet sheets. I hop this helps.