Dear Melissa, I am aged 19 and please sweetie, don't feel alone because over 40,000 people have these types of control problems(with myself included). I sorry for you because you seem like so many others, innocent. Like I said, I too have both problems and have since the age of 14. My poopy diapers don't get changed alot because of the fact that there are not that many as wet ones, but when there are poopy ones, I have a big messy bummy. I am so sorry sweetie that an innocent young woman like you has to deal with this. My adto you would be to talk to your mother about this. ps: If you have any questions or comments for me, please DO NOT be scared to email me because I'd love to help you. My email is chriso114@hotmail.com. Love with a gentle kiss,chris