Reply from Tom, Child's Age N/A - 5/13/03 - IP#: 159.39.16.14

Any time a bedwetting child goes on a sleepover with other children, especially a whole class, there is some risk that her secret will be discovered. If she really wants to go and understands that there is a possibility that someone might find out about her bedwetting, then let her go. You didn’t say what kind of diapers you normally use, but cloth is difficult to deal with away from home. You might try a diaper that is easier to put on than you normally use at home and use an insert for added absorbency if needed. Experiment with that before the sleepover if you can. A 12 year old should be able to handle a disposable diaper with tapes with a little practice. If you think she really needs help, speak to her teacher about help with the diaper when it is time to go to sleep - putting one on before dropping her off isn’t a good idea since it may be several hours before bedtime. It would be a good idea to ask the teacher for help in any case, she may be able to arrange a private place to change. If she has any close friends that know about her bedwetting, they might arrange to sleep together as a group and have a little more privacy that way.