Give her Time I know she is 4.1/2 but some kids are later than others dont push her encourage her but dont push! as, the more you push your child the more resistant your child will become. she will eventually want to be out of nappies As Regards relatives asking isnt it time she was out of nappies just say she will be out of them soon enough just give her time! and leave it at that! dont listen to what other people have to say YOU are the parent not them! As Regards Kindergarden well I know in Britain we call it Nursery school here they will take a child still in nappies what it is in the states I dont knowBut probably they will Perhaps The Other Tom My friend who posts on this board Can pick up on that Topic of Kindergarden as I am not conversant with the American school system!. hope this is of help to you. Best Wishes, Tom .UK