Britney: I am sorry you are not getting some advice that you are so deperately seeking. Would you really like to read some instances that are so much like your situation(and sometimes just diametrically opposite)? Every case though always has a certain twist to it so that none are exact duplication. First, however, you and Rachel's daddy m u s t take charge, set the rules and go with them. You cannot pander Rachel. You both shall agree to do whatever you see as the best for Rachel and for making her comfortable thru the nite. Do not back off. Tell Rachel what you feel is necessary to keep her comfortable and to lighten the laundry load. You can give her responsibility to clean up sheets and clothing and to do or help with the laundry, whatever it may be. This can be the same for daytime as for nighttime....Now, you would do well to read the many posts which are now history and you will get an insight to similar circumstnaces of others. Many read just like yours, but you have to ferret them out to grasp the stories. Most parents manage somehow to resolve their difficulties and get the job done. For instance, BACK UP to 12/30/02 to read Sharon's post and then have a ball reading the plethora of responses. Follow the postings then going forward to see what was happening. Shortly after that date on 1/6/03 you will find a post by Betty with an opposite mirror image of the circumstances, but Betty's postings petered out because of problems upon which I will not elaborate.....If you wish to further inquire anything, please do so and we will attempt to help out as much as we can. Work with Rachel, sit her down and see if you can determine the WHY'S and WHEREFOR'S to see what you can do for her to help with her comfort and well-being. For me, give her a hug and hope you get something from this post......mr j