Reply from Mr John(Papa), Child's Age xx - 12/3/02 - IP#: 67.28.93.218Dear Maggie: Firstly, thank you for the post in reply to another post a few days ago, concerning your experiences with your 12yo. I thought I would comment on your statements regarding the poll results(#25), however. I would say that the poll entry 'embarassment' becomes sort of an umbrella word, regardless of age considerations, for persons' consciousness of or reminder of their circumstances. Such could be their attire or what they are wearing, the physical event involved, teasing more likely to children, having their secret become known, and so on. I am confident there are some more. In my opinion, it would be difficult to bring about embarassment by a responsible parent or adult. If intentional, that person is most irresponsible and means to hurt. Children tend to be that way and can be cruel, though they see it as fun. On the other hand, and I suspect this is what you folks might be thinking, there is another poll entry for "punishment", which does not now rate a very high percentage for influencing the patient, almost always a youngster, or perhaps a teen. There is a very fine line then between this as a disciplinary action and "embarassment". Every now and then, a "diaper discipline" post shows up to one degree or another. A very soft and mild instance can be read by you if you back up to a post by a mom named Jo on 11/06/02, currently on Page 3 of Parents Board. There is a reply to the post dated 11/07/02 from a mom with a 13yo, where she comments on the futility for her of spanking and has taken up diaper discipline(her own words at that). There generally is not much reactive conversations to these events, I find, but they are there of a fact. Thanks again to you and best wishes.....Mr j |