The debate on diapers vs. no diapers for older kids has come up before and undoubtedly will come up again. I believe that parents bedwetting kids should make an effort to solve the problem, maybe using alarms or medication. Some believe that just letting the kid wet the sheets will provide incentive to quit wetting the bed. Maybe those things will work and maybe not; everyone is different and what works for one doesn’t work for all. Diapers are a useful tool for those cases where nothing else works, and the only alternative to diapers is to wake up with wet sheets. The use of diapers might cause some kids to become lax about getting up to use the bathroom or even trying to stay dry, but I don’t think that use of diapers leads to a diaper fetish except in a few rare instances. I do believe that some kids already have a diaper fetish and will deliberately stage wetting incidents to fool their parents into buying diapers for them. For example, I really can’t believe that Denise’s daughter really has a bedwetting problem; once diapers became available, she quickly reverted to other infantile behavior, which tends to indicate that there was some tendency in that direction all along. I believe that the vast majority of kids that are real bedwetters would like nothing better than to overcome the problem. For these kids, particularly those that are not helped by alarms or medications, diapers offer a chance to get a night’s sleep without waking up and having to change the sheets during the night. They do not like wearing diapers or waking up on wet sheets, they avoid sleepovers, they would be embarrassed if their friends found out, and they pray every night that they will wake up dry in the morning. There are many tools available to deal with bedwetting, and diapers is only one of them; but that one should be available to those that are not helped by other methods and need it. I agree with some of what Reader said; that diapers should be put on just before going to sleep and removed immediately when waking up. The child should take as much responsibility as possible in putting on, removing, and washing diapers and/or sheets. Encouraging or allowing a child to sit around in a diaper for a couple of hours before bedtime or after waking up in the morning might send the wrong message – that it’s ok to just use the diaper instead of the toilet.