I didn’t actually say that using diapers for bedwetting does not lead to a diaper attachment or fetish, only that I believe such an occurrence to be rare. I don’t know of any statistics to support either that belief or the opposite viewpoint that it often leads to an attachment or fetish. I do come from a family where many of the males and a few of the females are/were bedwetters, and some of the younger ones used diapers until they outgrew it. As far as I know, no one developed an attachment for diapers or had any problems with relationships, although so far no one was still wetting by the time they began developing relationships. I do know that some kids have a diaper fetish and try to manipulate their parents into buying diapers for them, while others want to buy their own diapers and keep it a secret from their parents. Just read through the posts on the 11-20 board and you will find a variety of these messages. I don’t know what causes a fetish to develop and I don’t think we will figure it out by debating different opinions. I would really like to hear from a mental health professional who works with this type of disorder and can offer advice on what causes it, how to prevent it, and if it can be cured after it has started. As far as alarms and medication are concerned; they do work, but not for everyone – there are still a few kids (and adults) that don’t respond to either. Pacific International claims a 97% cure rate, but only if you are willing to use the alarm for up to two years. I think you should see some results within the first three months if an alarm is going to work, and many of those kids would have outgrown bedwetting on their own during those two years. I have tried an alarm with no results – I am a heavy sleeper and by the time it woke me up (if I woke up at all) the sheets were already soaked and had to be changed. I use DDAVP now and it reduces wet nights by about 75% but does not eliminate them completely. Since I still have occasional wet nights I still wear a diaper to bed, but I have switched to a cloth pull-up diaper which allows me to easily use the bathroom when I do wake up and need to, and also to remove it and reuse it the next night when it’s not wet. No, I don’t have a diaper fetish – I just can’t stand waking up on wet sheets, and my wife doesn’t like waking up in a wet bed either.