So sorry Annie! I hit the wrong key and got the double post prematurely. I had something else I wanted to say to Moms out there that is in line with my plea for help from them to answer such a call as yours for advice. MOMS, MOMMIES, MUMS won't YOU PLEASE GIVE ANNIE THE BENEFIT OF YOUR EXPERIENCE AND ADVICE she is seeking. Please do not read and then pass us over. YOUR INPUT IS SORELY NEEDED. If your children are of another age or have some other circumstance, GIVE ANNIE AND ALL OF US YOUR JUDGEMENT ACCORDINGLY. This is a perfect opportunity. Cought this in an ad on radio I think and it fits wellin such matters. You may see this again!