I think the times have changed from when we grew up. Mine was a generation in which we had servants or were servants. Today, that is not the case. As a child, I'd wake up uncomfortable in bed. Today, our children don't need to do so. If a parent has the time and resourses to devote to an incontinent child without resorting to diapers, I believe that would likely be best for the child, but only because I was treated that way myself. The real issue being discussed here is one which I don't feel any of us are really qualified to answer. We are not the experts, and not even they really know whether placing children back into diapers will cause them harm later in life. I am not aware of any experiments that have been designed or carried out that can answer this question, either. The result is we are divided about an issue for which we have no definitive answer. The focus should probably be on whether we believe that because of our pressured schedules and the availability of disposable diapers whether the diapers will harm the child now. If we force a child into diapers, we can harm that child. I say Can, rather than Will, as our children all react differently. I feel the best way to handle the situation is to discuss the issues with the child, and present several options to him that are acceptable to you as the parents. And, the child should be allowed to try each of the alternatives, with your help. The child can do the extra laundry that he causes by sleepwetting, can sleep on a bedpad and rinse it out whenever he sleepwets, can try pullups, alarms, or whatever other methods you wish to present. If the decision is the child's, he will not resent being forced into diapers, nor will he feel he is being babied. Thus, the AB/DL issues are avoided altogether. I say this knowing many of these children will become AB/TB/DL as they grow older, if they are so predisposed.