Barbara: I will give you some advice pursuant to your question and concern, though I trust you will understand that you will need to make some decisions for yourself and the children. Firstly, there is not much you can do to influence your son's embarrassment other than to acknowledge you faux pas and assure him you love him. This was several days ago now, and I do know that if he will not make an issue and say no more about it, the matter will pass away in the minds of his friends. Otherwise you seem to have found the way to help him for his comfort and you might reminde him of that...In the instance of your daughter, bless her heart, I understand her feelings. Embarrassment should be a non-issue for her. You must empathize with your daughter and let her understand that she is now becoming a young woman and will need to do things that are consistant with that fact-of-life at certain times of the month. The circumstance that she also must provide protection even at other times, she will have to accept that in the interest of social acceptability with her friends, acquantences and in her school setting along with protecting furniture, car seats, etc. not to mention her clothes and of course her bedding....While I do think your daughter would in general find a cloth diaper more comfortable and appropriate, disposables can be used when the occasion demands. Either way, she may need waterproof pants, which I would get for her if I were you. The exception to these would be bedwetter pants which sort of defy a good description and, further, I would not consider all-in-ones though popular with some....As you daughter is uncomfortable at best, more emotionally perhaps, I suggest this. Should you get cloth diapers, do buy contoured ones rather than prefolded regular in order to eliminate the bulk. I also suggest using pins rather than velcro closure in spite of their convenience, but that is a choice, coz of laundering inconveniences. For your daughter, less bulk would be appreciated I am sure. For pants, you can let her make a choice herself from all the colors and patterns in plastic pants available at some(not all)stores, especially on the internet. Or she might be more content with very light weight coated nylon material which is very subtle. Tell your daughter these are real COOL and will help her to remain comfortable....Your son could also use cloth diapers,if he needs absorbancy especially, and plastic pants. I must remind you that cloth will save $$$$ in the long run if you expect to use them more than a few months. But you then have laundry(the kids can help here)and you do have the initial outlay for the diapers and supplies....I have provided the detail above for the most part to try to calm your daughter's apprehension and perhaps give you also a little guidance if you are willing to accept it. Hope it helps some.........mr j