I woke him and took him to the bathroom. It wore us both out ( I am a single parent) he had to get up early and I had to go to work in the morning. His results at school dropped, and the alarm obviously didn't help. The medication, DDVAP had side effects like bad head aches and nose bleed, no parent wants to put their child through anything like that. Letting him sleep without diapers had no effect at all, he wet the bed and didn't wake up. At age 9 he was responsible of changing the sheets himself, which he had to do every morning. In the end he decided wearing diapers to bed was a better option. No wet sheets, no smell in his room. The thing that seemed to have some effect was to avoid caffeine drinks like coke and tea and orange juice (it irritates the bladder) and make sure he went to the bathroom right before bedtime. At age 13 he gradually stopped wetting the bed. We did try the alarm again, and he actually started to wake up himself. At age 14 he FINALLY became dry at night. He did NOT develop a diaper fetish! He was so proud and happy about throwing the diapers away and go to sleepovers with his buddies. My 10 year old still wets the bed, but he now knows its possible to grow out of it. He is a deep sleeper too, and it seems that is the basic problem. There is not an easy way to solve the bedwetting problem. Each parent and child have to find their own way to deal with it. But I do think it's very important that the child and parent discuss what the best way is. Making the child wear diapers, or punishing them for their bedwetting is NOT the way to deal with it. To lower the childs self esteem will certainly not help the bedwetting problem.