I Totally agree with The other Tom unfortunately when there is an age gap as you can see with my children ages now 10 and 15 and my eldest a girl now nearly 21 no longer a Child but yes because the child we had it with my daughter and had to give her plenty of individual attention !not so much when my youngest came on the scene because my daughter compensated for my middle sons loss of attention although we still had to try and divide our attention between them to avoid jealousy!. hopes this is of help!