See, exactly what I mean? I have Helen and Stephanie telling me I'm handling this the wrong way. First of all to Stephanie, I don't FORCE her to wear goodnites, she prefers those to a wet bed. To Helen, I said we tried an alarm, it didn't help and she has gotten better, it used to be every night, now she's down to about 3 or 4 nights a week so I'm hoping soon she'll outgrow it completely. As for boyfriends if they honestly love you they won't make fun of you for something you can't control, and unlike you my daughter doesn't get drunk and sleep around and no she doesn't have problems in the day.