Reply from Lenny, Child's Age 2,4,22,33 - 11/11/03 - IP#: 68.53.120.xxx   parbb-c1628

The IP address is that of the ISP, or internet service provider. The last set of digits, represented by XXX, could indicate the individual computer being serviced by the ISP. For those of us with a static IP number, the complete address does indicate a particular computer. For those whose address changes, the ISP knows whose computer is assigned a particular address at any specified time. But, just saying that the first three sets of numbers of the ISP indicates posting under different names may be inaccurate. I also note that the sex of the child seems to change twice within the short paragraph written. In and of itself, I don't feel anything can be read into this other than a better method of proofreading may be indicated. What the message indicates to me is that the daughter is acting like a 3-yr old girl. My younger granddaughter has had similar episodes, and we simply placed her back into pullups. At age 2-1/2, nearly 3, she becomes quite involved in her play activities, and simply doesn't realize that her bladder is sending her messages. When she decides to take back the responsibility of being potty trained, she can graduate back into big-girl panties again. Your daughter is much older. She is imitating the actions of a 3-yr old, and may have much anger within her. In any case, a visit to the correct professionals can help you and your daughter sort out whatever her problems are. First, I hope you can rule out any infection that could cause this problem. Then, if all proves to be OK with her physical health, you may consider looking for other causes. Until you can find the true reason for her seeming indifference to wetting, I don't feel the problem will clear up. Perhaps, you could ask her if she would consider wearing nappies and rubbers, or pullups, rather than wetting herself and anything she is sitting or reclining on. Please don't force her to use protection. Instead, appeal to the way she would feel were she to have an accident in front of her friends or classmates. I feel her problem may be emotional, and think that forcing her to wear protection would only add to the problem. Also, help her to think about anything that may have changed in her life, or that has added stress to it.