Hello Stephanie, it"s marijke again, from Holland, so please excuse my english;I think, with all doe respect, that you put yourself into the position of a servant to your 9 year old daughter. She pees, you clean up; she pees......and so on. As I wrote before, my 9 and 11 year old wear diapers and plasic panties each night and my 11 year old even during day time.Its not a matter of forcing but convincing. Youhave to make it clear to your kid, that YOU are in charge.there is nothing wrong with MAKING her wear diapers and rubber panties ,not as a punishment (heaven beware)but because it is necessary . drynights with a tight fitting plastic or rubberpantydoe a good job . My daughter sees the point. she almost loves wearing them ,because anythingis better than soaked cloths. Love , Marijke