Thanks for the feedback I originally posted this message in response to reply I got in response to a reply I made back in October. Someone suggested using diapers and humiliation to deal with her daughter’s bedwetting problem. She said when her 12 year old daughter refused to use the alarm she made her ware thick diapers and plastic pants and a short dress even in front of other people. Clearly abuse. I suggested that spanking for disobedience was more appropriate and affective. The response she sent me was just as strange so I felt that I should try and bring some balance to the subject. I don’t mean to do a blame mom thing here we do still have issues we are working through them. Mom feels terrible about a lot of things that happened. My younger siblings today have the most loving and devoted mother. Tom you hit the nail on the head about how it was being spanked for wetting I had no control over. At times I was physically ill nervous and would even throw up. I have no children of my own but I don’t think I could spank if I did anyway. When I do I think their father will have to be the disciplinarian. I know this is a controversial subject and constructive dialog is important. Keep it coming Stephanie :)