... With dad I remember the routine was over the knee till about age 12. After age 13 he would have me stand with my feet together look ahead grab my knees then swat me with a stick that really got my attention. I always changed my behavior after dad spanked me. The routine with mom was different we had issues that started when I was about 13 and a half years old. She would often loose her temper and grab my left arm and beat my bottom with a stick till she got what ever out of her system. At times it seemed to that she would spank me just because she could. Sometimes I would not get in trouble even for major offences and sometimes I got beat for the slightest infraction. There were even times that I had no idea what I was getting spanked for. Around my 14th birthday I was still wetting once or twice a week. Mom decided to change the rules in the middle of the game and I was spanked every morning that my bed was wet. This made things worse and instead of being wet once or twice a week soon I was wetting every night. The hardest thing was being punished for something I had no control over. To this day mom and I are not close as we should be and I still don’t feel like I’m good enough for her. So everyone use good judgment and spank to maintain discipline and not out of anger.Stephanie.