Cheryl this has been a good exchange the past couple of weeks. I have no kids of my own so I feel it is not my place to tell anyone how to raise their children. what I do have to offer is my own childhood memoires and I have tried to share how I felt as a child with a bedwetting problem. I am glad it was helpful for you. my posts on this board have not always been well received. One thing I saw missing from the message boards was reality. It sounds like you have a good plan. Your history sounds a lot like my mothers side they also only occasional wetting about once a month till about 12. Also my sister wet about once a month till 12 and my aunt jenny through age 13. I call it incidental wetting usually occurring when the child drinks something of is under stress ill tired or after an exciting experience say a day at the fair. its probably a lot more common than most think because wetting only once a month doesn't really warrant any intervention so most of those cases are not included in any data. i read somewhere that you are considered a bedwetter if you wet more than 4 times a year. by that definition you and your siblings would be considered bedwetters but I'm not sure i would agree. wetting once a month or less i suspect does not have the same baggage with self esteem. like your kids i have no wetting history in my fathers side my dad says he can only remember wetting twice in his life at age 7 and 9. Your children and your husbands cousins children share a common great grandparents 1/8 same gene pool. genetics do funny things and bedwetting seems to have many causes and I believe when all the right pieces are in place you can get a chronic bedwetter even though neither parent was what you would consider a chronic bed wetter. For example I seem to have small bladder common on my mothers side and I am a deep sleeper like my dad = a lot of wet beds. I have no other siblings who have the same father and mother I have only a lot of half sibs and I am the only one who wet every night like that. I wish you luck with the alarms the method has been successful for many children. I have really enjoyed sharing with you some of my most privet childhood memories. I don't know why it is so hard for me to talk to anybody about my not uncommon childhood problem but sharing with you has helped me a lot keep me posted Stephanie :)