Oh tom I don’t know what to say or where to begin. Human nature? Let me explain how it works. First of all if you see someone say a girl over 14 who is obviously using protection I don’t think most people are going to criticize. (Pssss I can’t believe she wore those pants with her depends) from the girls point of view every woman learns at about 13 men will notice her and they noticing her shape. If I am walking down an airplane aisle many of the men will smile as we make eye contact. Not because they know I am a nice person but because they notice the shape of a woman in their peripheral vision. THAT’S human nature every woman after about age 13 wants to be noticed and be noticed more than others (trust me on this) we all do and you all notice and desire us and your wives notice also. We all dress to be noticed you may try and say at this point a 14 year old is just a child. The only you can say for sure about 14 years old is it is a confusing age. In response to Amy I am not sure she acted in best interest of her children. I am suspicious of the situation a 14 year old who starts to wet again she has a sister who has always wet at night. If there is no medical reason then you have to look at all possibilities before putting your 14 year old in goodnights for your own convenience. Amy said she came here looking for “advise” in order to better understand the situation I asked her three questions. how long had the 14 year old been dry? What is the family history? Is the 14 year old being given more responsibility and privileges as she is getting older. All valid questions that should be answered before just recklessly giving advise however Amy did not even respond to my questions. I will NOT!! Respond to her directly until she answers me. So there Stephanie