Amy: since she never was totally dry at night then that would be an indicator of that she is not wetting deliberately. I Read an article that said you are considered a bed-wetter if you wet your bed more than 4 times a year. Also primary enuresis and secondary enuresis? Primary means a child has never become dry at night and secondary means the child started wetting again. Secondary enuresis (Bed-wetting) is diagnosed if a child starts wetting again after being dry for at least 6 months. By the definitions your 14 tear old has always wet her bed even if only occasionally. One school of thought is we all develop control and senses over our bodies at different rates of development. None of us had control over our bladder when we were first born through the first 2 years of life. Slowly we learned by trial and error to use the toilet make it to the bathroom in time. Most somewhere between 2 ½ - 3 ½ years of age we got to where we didn’t need diapers anymore. Notice the range 2 ½ to 3 ½ years a one-year span that covers most but some exceptional cases may be a little outside that range but we are all different. Likewise we all learn nighttime control at different ages there is a connection between the brain and bladder that singles us to wake up and go when our bladder is full. If your bladder is full at night at an age before you have developed the connection you will quite naturally relieve yourself as you sleep. If you have just enough bladder capacity and you don’t have anything to drink make sure you visit the bathroom before bed you might get lucky and only have occasional accidents. Even though you have not quite developed that nighttime connection that tells you to get up to go to the bathroom. The range of ages that we develop nighttime control is between 4 to 15 years for most of us. I suspect that occasional bed-wetting is a lot more common than we realize. A child who wets only 4 –6 times a year would never be considered to have a problem and that’s as it should be. Most parents would chalk it up to having something to drink before bed or forgetting to go to the bathroom before bed and that is exactly what is happening. If that same child grows a little faster than her bladder then the balance might tip enough to cause her to start having more wet nights. Another possible cause to consider is the changes that occur with the onset of puberty. Chemical biologically and hormones affect how we hold /retain and release water we all know how that feels. Wet beds are a part of growing up for many of us until learn to wake up and get ourselves up to go the bathroom. AT What age did the others in the family stop wetting their bed? That might give us an indicator of what to expect from your girls. Myself I went through a learning process that started when I was 14 ½ years old till I finally stopped having wet nights by the time I was 16 year old. Steph :o)