Cindy that is soooo coool !!!! My guess she should use the chat room as long as she needs to talk about it then she can move on. I still need to talk about it and it has been 9 years since i wet but i never talked about it but kept it in for a long time. if they don't want her in there because she has stooped that is a strange group then. usually kids are worried about being left out because they wet i have never heard of being out because you don't wet. as for the alarm hmmm when i had the alarm what my mom used to do with me was have me use it till i went a whole week with out wetting. then i was off the alarm till i was wet a third night in one week then i was back on it again till i could go a week without wetting. i don't know if that is the best way but it did give a little incentive though. It seems like your daughter is doing a little better than i did Stephanie :)