Jolie: just a few things to say first step families come with inherent problems. When you move in to a family unit that already in as it is at first you are the outsider. You and your husband must work together and agree on a coarse of action. Both you and your husband make good points as do the pervious replies. Some sleep through wetting and some wake after or during a wetting accident. as a child I wet my bed and slept through most nights to wake up wet in the morning. When I was older I started waking and feeling myself getting wet and eventually learned to wake before I started wetting. For that reason I don't recommend goodnights or other forms of protection on a child that age. you might consider using protection only on special occasions like when away from home. I don't agree with drugging a child with "ADHD" based on what I have seen. I don't know of any who were drugged in a zombie state through childhood that grew to be well adjusted adults. The first thing to ask is how often does he wet? and has there been any recent improvement? Unfortunately bedwetting seems to part of growing up for a certain number of us. Maybe the most important thing is attitude. I still remember my stepmother's and I remember a conversation I overheard between her and her sister. "I am so frustrated with Stephanie she wets the bed every night any 13 year old who can't get up to use the bathroom" After more than 10 years those words still cut like a knife. Good luck to ya Steph :)