You should read the articles on encopresis and enuresis on www.soilingsolutions.com. They are very informative and will help you understand that he is not doing it on purpose or to spite you. I have a 7 year old little girl who has had encopresis/enuresis for 4 years now. I am so pleased to have found such comprehensive information that i have sent the link to two mothers from this bulletin board! Good luck!