HI Wendy, We had the same trouble with our 12yr old. We went the diaper and plastic pant route with our child at night. We also went daytime on weekends which was very motivating for her. Double diapers and plastic pants under a dress works out just fine. Not very noticable but the child can feel them and is embarassed about weartin them. We had very good results and she was dry in a month.